HIV Ethics

How about an informal, unscientific survey? Read the following situation and decide:\n At what point should you tell a person you are sexually interested in that you are HIV Positive?\n Here's the set-up. You are in a bar and you meet a person, and you know they are interested in having sex with you (body language, signals, outright stated interest). You are interested in having sex with them. You are HIV positive and you don't know if the other person is or is not.\n You agree to go back to their place, and when you arrive, you have a beer together and chat in the living room. Soon, you are sitting next to one another. Then you kiss. Then you get some tongue.\n After this, you are led to the bedroom. You begin to undress one another. When everything is off, your hands begin to wander. Then you both jump onto the bed, and you begin by rubbing against one another. Then penetration happens. \n After sex, you begin dressing.\n

WHEN WOULD YOU TELL?\n
1. When we meet\n
2. After we've met, while we are talking\n
3. When we decide to leave the bar\n
4. When I get to his/her place\n
5. After the beer but before the first kiss\n
6. After the tongue kiss\n
7. While I'm being led to the bedroom\n
8. While we are undressing\n
9. After jumping on the bed\n
10. While we are rubbing against one another\n
11. Before penetration \n
12. After penetration\n
13. While I'm dressing\n
14. By phone the next day\n
15. I never tell.