Combat rage with respect

My heart goes out to the victims of the senseless University of California Santa Barbara shootings.
There can be no justification for what Elliot Rodger did.
To see that some people truly believe women, or indeed anyone else, inherently owes something to another person solely on the basis of their existence, is absolutely terrifying.
Indeed, everybody has the right to exist for themselves and themselves alone, and they retain all the privileges given to them because of that right.
However, I believe this individual right is the primary issue here, and a woman’s right to express herself is a subset of this overarching theme.
After taking a much-regretted stroll into Rodger’s Manifesto, I found the defining theme was his distaste for all people.
Not only did he despise women, but he was also a racist, egocentrist and narcissist.
Addressing only the anti-women part of his ideology would be limiting the true scope of what should be addressed.
 Though his anti-women views are the most virulent and prominent, they were ultimately caused because he believed the world and the people on it owed something to him.
Perhaps the biggest issue I have with the response to the shooting is when people say, “fathers should teach their boys not to rape women.”
Well, of course.
Nobody is going to argue with that. But I think the lesson to be taught is not only with the issue of rape. It is a much larger, more comprehensive idea.
The idea is to respect others as people and not fall into the foolhardy belief that any person or any group is responsible for anything beyond themselves.
This is one of the many things Rodger lacked. His lack of respect is what eventually led to the development of his anti-women views.
The presence of this belief within people is far more effective in discouraging rape than merely expressing the terribleness of rape.
For example, I have never had the urge to go and rape someone.
Yet, my father never sat me down and told me with a serious face that I should never rape a woman.
I was taught, however, that everyone has a right to their own life and could live it as they see fit.
Thus, the idea of raping somebody went so obviously against what I was taught that I would never consider doing it.
I believe this is what should be focused on the most.
We need an all-encompassing, individualistic view of other people rather than the focused “do not rape anyone.”
Because if these attacks continue on the totality of men, many of whom respect women’s (and everybody else’s) rights fully, they will become disillusioned with this movement that by its very existence stigmatizes the group it wants to change.